reading & read | cmr

A Quick Update - Mentions Sex! Yay!

I have not forgotten about the wonderland of book-reading, my dears. I have been reading - just neglecting to tell you what I thought of them. I've recently read Miracle in the Andes, written by Nando Parrado. Nando was one of the two men who trekked out of the Andes mountains where their plane had crashed in 1972. Part of a rugby team on their way to Chile, he made the journey to civilization.

Miracle in the Andes was good. But something kept getting in the way and I think it's the author's need to be so fair. Though the compassion and understanding he blankets over each individuals' reaction is certainly justified and true, I think it takes away from his own experience - and sucks out some of the emotion a person would feel in that moment. For instance, he notes the lack of motivation and the strong desire to die in some of the passengers. He touches upon his own feelings of being frustrated and angry with that person, but quickly (and I think too quickly), he dissipates those raw feelings with understanding and compassion. Very PC; but also... very PC.

I have also been reading She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman This is a great source of information. The entire first part of the book is focusing on understanding not only the female body's purpose and "mechanisms"(if you will) but also the connection between emotions (read: sensuality, knowledge, "scary talk," etc.) and the body's process of arousal. I admit I was a little anxious to read a man's interpretation of the female body, because let's ALL admit it: even if the information is factual (he does use many reports, essays and studies as back-up), facts themselves can still be interpreted differently from person to person. I want to know what one man is spreading to other men. If I feel that information is accurate to me, then great. Publish away! A "Bravo" to Mr. Kerner. Let's just hope that the men who read it don't skip to the "technique" section - skimming the bolded words.

I have yet to get to the part of the book about technique (because as I only date men, I am in no rush to read how to pleasure a woman - though should death be here on the morn and a poor woman needs some intimacy, I might claim love on the heart of this damsel if only to not be alone on my very last night alive without an orgasm [so I should make sure she reads the book too]. However, I may currently be in a bit of a rush to "hang out" with a man who has read the technique part of the book).

Because I play things fair, I am also in the process of reading the counterpart to the above,
He Comes Next: A Thinking Woman's Guide to Pleasuring a Man. The book is great. It is formatted just as She, with understanding (a blanket term that is not at all specific) and technique. It's great to read these things, and even better when you know it comes from a clear and blunt (but sensitive!) author. Note: Ian Kerner wrote the juxtaposed book Admit It: You're Not That Into Him Either, to He's Just Not That Into You (I may have these titles slightly wrong, but oh well. I've had some wine and I'm not setting up links. Wait till I read them.) Knowing he writes with that honesty, I was pleased to read about a man's feelings.

But there is a downside.

I get the very strong feeling that this book - at least Part 1 - was written for (either):

A: Married couples/women
B: Older married couples;
C: Couples with sexual problems;
D: Overweight men.

I can count on one hand the excellent wonderful things from Part I that I could take with me; however, the rest was very irrelevant.

I am a single woman on the prowl. I'm not reading the book to be a great fellatio-er (how the hell do you say something like that? Would "slut" do?), but because I am curious to know about my body, the perceptions about my body that are being published, and the perceptions purchasers are buying into. And fellatio is, predominantly, a female-performing event, is it not? I wanna know what it has to say.

Again, I have not yet read the technique part of this book (I suppose this means I won't be getting any calls soon? . . . Buncha bastards. I should go dyke.)

. . . Now I am trying to remember what other books I have read since October, but my mind has gotten all crazy with fellatio and cunnilingus. Thanks a lot!

. . . Oh! I am currently reading The Witch's Boy by Michael Gruber. I'll definitely post when I'm finished with that (probably tomorrow or Friday). Because I'm back on track, babies. That's right!

(P.S. I plan on figuring out how to sexily integrate this page to my main homepage. So stay tuned. ... For a really long time. [Just in case.])

posted by christen roberts @ 10:11 PM 0 comments